Cindy Pivacic’s book The Deadly Seducer, describes her journey of being infected with HIV, contracting it from her live-in boyfriend, and living with HIV/Aids.
Charlotte Kemp says of the book:
A bold and honest account, Cindy Pivacic shares her story about how she came to contract HIV & Aids and how she responded to it. Not only is she living healthy years later, but her vibrant and energetic character has been poured into helping others who are experiencing the same situation.
Cindy presents talks and workshops on living positively with HIV & Aids and those, with this book and her online presence, gives her the opportunity to create awareness, give testimony concerning the HIV & Aids issue, and to assist in de-stigmatising this secret killer.
Times LIVE recently shared three short excerpts from Pivacic’s book. Read about the encounter that changed it all – when a condom broke – and her diagnosis. She writes, “Many people do not show any symptoms of HIV infection for years, but will more than likely have the initial rash that indicates the body has been infected with the virus. In my case the onset of the acquired diseases was practically immediate.”
Excerpt: Life’s a beach
Brad (not his real name) and I were in a relationship for a total of three years and I had insisted on using protection during intercourse. During an evening of (how can I put this delicately without offending the faint-hearted?) exuberant sex – the condom broke!
Had I known better, I would have continued using a condom further into the relationship, but I thought, “Oh well the damage is done”, not realising that there was a chance that that one encounter may not have infected me. During the initial part of our relationship, I used protection thinking I would be safe. But when the unfortunate incident occurred, lack of knowledge prevailed and I discontinued using protection.
To order The Deadly Seducer contact the author by sending her an email at firstname.lastname@example.org
About the book
It is all about you if you can live with yourself, stuff everyone else! I understand fully that it is a serious, terminal disease but it is manageable, so try to keep your sense of humour and “Deal With It”, sounds simple, but for some it will not be, that is why I would like to share the more positive side of my experience. It is not some, feel-sorry-for-me memoir or a sad biography – I usually pick up a biography, read the back, say “oh hell no” and put it right back on the shelf.
This is just telling it how it is and how I had to deal with “IT”. I have had the most excitinglife possible, no regrets. No one is untouchable, although some people I have met have the strangest ideas about “IT”. This can affect anyone, directly or indirectly, and eventually someone else’s situation will affect you.
Forty six year old, Caucasian woman, so much for Gay and Black stereotype, HIV and Aids is my disease!
A brief look at a ‘normal’ youth spent in Namibia then going to a boarding school as there were no high schools in Oranjemund to my fathers transfer to Kimberley and the teen years of growing up and testing the waters of what teenagers get up to along with their peers. I come from a very healthy well balanced background which goes to show everyone is vulnerable no matter your standard of living.
My first and second marriages were disasters for very different reasons; the first fortunately brought me two wonderful hard earned children but due to the lack of affection from my husband they had to be meticulously planned. The second husband was a violent individual and totally opposite of my first husband the physical side was passionate entwined with both violent abuse and sexual ardour.
Deciding to move from the Free State to KwaZulu Natal seemed like the best thing at the time in order to remove myself from my second husbands family and then in time from him, unknowingly setting myself up for an even worse situation. Being the trusting person I am totally misled into a relationship with someone fourteen years my junior resulting in a lifelong deadly disease.
Living with the HI virus and acquired diseases related to HIV & Aids since 2004, the lengthy detailed treatments are shared in the hope that it will create awareness to the public at large and show that acquiring the virus does not have to mean a death sentence. We are all going to die, eventually; it is just up to each one of us how you are going to live in-between, disease or no disease!
With support, yes, from family and friends believe it or not it has helped somewhat in removing the stigma and discrimination attached to the disease and with proper assistance and support the stigma can be overcome. By pointing people in the right direction and advising what to do, where to go, when and how to do it will hopefully prolong their life by managing their disease.
The treatment takes the reader through the various stages of acquired diseases that affected me and by doing this give people hope that acquiring diseases such as Strokes, Pneumonia, Shingles, TB Meningitis and Cancer (Angioimmunoblasticlymphadenopathy) will show them that living a healthy lifestyle can and does work. Going onto ARVs need not be a nightmare if taken correctly; they will enhance your life.
The lack of support within the suburbs is frightening and is addressed with contact details to counselling, testing and support group facilities. Add to this some tried and tested, easy, healthy recipes, the first thing that always gets asked is ‘So, what do you eat?’ necessitated this inclusion.
The thirty-six FAQ are easy to understand and an integral part of creating awareness and giving information to the still unacquainted people of South Africa in a manner that encourages them to want to read and find out more about this disease.
It boils down to ADAPT or DIE, I chose to adapt!
About the author
Cindy Pivacic is a speaker, living positively with HIV and Aids since November 2004, having lived through numerous challenges, would like to share her journey. She is living proof that a healthy lifestyle can prolong your life.
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Die Vriende van Afrikaans (VVA) is ‘n groep mense wat werk vir Afrikaans. Hulle is nie polities, seksisties, rassisties of godsdiensvoorskriftelik nie en verwelkom almal wat wil saamwerk. Sedert 2005 reël dié organisasie ‘n Koop-’n-Afrikaanse-boekdag waar hulle Afrikaanssprekendes aanmoedig om skrywers, boekwinkels en uitgewers te ondersteun deur ‘n boek in Afrikaans aan te skaf.
Hierdie dag val vanjaar weer oudergewoonte op 14 Augustus, vandag, en daarom word boekliefhebbers en woordmense genooi om in die kar te spring en na hul naaste boekwinkel te haas.
In ‘n onderhoud met Maroela Media verduidelik Amanda de Stadler, uitvoerende beampte, dat hierdie idee ontstaan het omdat een van hul spitsraadlede moeg geraak het om te luister na mense wat sê hulle wil graag Afrikaans lees, maar daar is nie Afrikaanse boeke beskikbaar nie. “Dit is gewoon nie waar nie,” sê De Stadler en verduidelik hoe die projek geloods is, wat hul daarmee wil bereik en waarom dit ‘n inklusiewe inisiatief is.
“Verlede jaar het ons begin agterkom dit word eintlik nasionale besit, dis nie meer net die dag wat óns reël nie, mense doen dit sommer vanself ook,” sê De Stadler en moedig Afrikaanssprekendes aan om Afrikaanse boeke te gaan koop “vir jou eie beswil”.
Luister na die potgooi:
Die Vriende van Afrikaans het ‘n lys van boekhandelaars wat deelneem aan hierdie dag op hul Facebook-bladsy gedeel en moedig mense aan om ‘n foto van hul kopie met die VVA te deel:
Watter boekwinkels neem deel aan die Koop-’n-Afrikaanse-boekdag op 14 Augustus 2014?
Goeie nuus aan alle boekliefhebbers en woordmense! Die volgende boekwinkels het tot dusver laat weet dat hulle aan die jaarlikse Koop-’n-Afrikaanse-boekdag gaan deelneem:
• Chantall Sayers van Kalahari laat weet dat hulle 30% afslag gee op 14 Augustus op ‘n seleksie van hulle Afrikaanse boeke, fisiese of digitale formaat.
• Lourens Potgieter van CNA sê hulle promosie duur van 14 tot 28 Augustus en hulle het heelwat hase in hulle hoed! “Ons gaan ‘n hengse klomp ekstra Thank U punte toestaan aan almal wat Afrikaanse boeke koop, en aan die ATKV-lede stuur ons ‘n e-pos met ‘n kortingkoepon vir 15% af op alle Afrikaanse boeke-aankope van R200 en meer. Daar gaan plakkate in ons winkels wees, en ons gaan adverteer. Buiten die Thank U punte en ATKV-korting is daar groot besparings op ‘n hele paar vooraanstaande titels, soos Leon van Nierop se Ballade vir ‘n enkeling, Kokkedoor 2 en Ladybird- en Phambili-kinderboekies.”
• CUM-boeke se bemarkingspan laat weet dat hulle 15% afslag aanbied op Afrikaanse boeke op 14 Augustus en sê: “Boeke kan jou inpireer, bemagtig en aanmoedig. Jy kan deur die wêreld reis sonder om ‘n tree te stap. Koop ‘n boek vir jouself of bederf iemand wat nog nooit ‘n boek van hulle eie besit het nie.”
• Riëtte van der Merwe van PNA in die Strand/PNA Colours/PNA Somerset-Wes/PNA Eikestad Mall gee op 14 Augustus 25% afslag op Afrikaanse boeke.
• Exclusive Books: Alma Struwig laat weet Mimosa Mall in Bloemfontein neem deel; Tertia Koegelenberg sê hulle tak in Centurion en die Kolonnade gee ook afslag. Karin Shaul se tak, Woodlands Boulevard gee 10% afslag. Anzel van die Loch Logan-tak in Bloemfontein laat weet hulle gee ook 10% af.
• Myafrikaans.com, ‘n eBoekwinkel gebaseer in Rotterdam gaan 20% afslag gee op 14 Augustus, laat weet André Beukes.
• Protea Boekwinkel landwyd bied 10% afslag op Afrikaanse boeke op 14 Augustus.
Baie dankie aan al hierdie vrygewige boekmense. Ons hoop hulle verkope styg flink op 14 Augustus!
Weet jy nie wat om te koop nie? Hier is ‘n paar voorstelle uit die Books LIVE-kamp:
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The Sunday Times has started a monthly bestseller list, identifying the most popular books in South Africa.
There are a gratifying number of South African books on the non-fiction list, which is topped by Good Morning, Mr Mandela by Zelda la Grange, followed, some would say inevitably, by The Real Meal Revolution by Tim Noakes, Sally-Ann Creed, David Grier and Jonno Proudfoot.
The Fault in Our Stars by John Green and The Little Old Lady Who Broke All the Rules by Catharina Ingelman-Sundberg head up the fiction list, with the only local link being the lead character in The Girl Who Saved the King of Sweden, Nombeko, who was born in Soweto.
The information for the list comes from SAPnet/Nielsen, bookseller data and publisher data.
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You’d be really hard pressed to find someone who didn’t have some sort of health or weight loss related resolution on the first of January. Most of us wish we were a little trimmer, stronger, or fitter. There’s a billion dollar industry that revolves around selling people food, supplements and equipment that will get us those abs we’re so desperate for. Tim Noakes thinks he’s found the magic recipe to get all of us to nail those resolutions. His massively popular, if controversial, high-fat, low-carb diet has been on the lips of many weekend warriors — from mountain bikers to CrossFitters — and even led to him publicly ripping out the section on carbo-loading from his classic book, The Lore of Running, which has been a bible for runners for several decades.
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By Ben Williams for The Sunday Times
The catchiest book title to bolt from South Africa’s fiction stable last year was Charlie Human’s, who named his speculative, supernatural take on Cape Town’s underworld Apocalypse Now-Now.
South African fiction is a glorious, Augean mess. Among its principal stablekeeps are Human’s publisher, Umuzi – an imprint of that fearful new griffon, Penguin Random House; Kwela, which has a long history of setting SA Lit’s Pan-piper tune; and Jacana, which stalks the indie publishing scene like a sphinx, pouncing on fresh writing.
As a friend of mine who works in books mentioned recently, these and other imprints find themselves scattered across the battlefield of a turf war that’s been raging for years. It’s a war between two sub-genres that have increasingly come to command our reading lives, Human’s book being just one amongst their legion.
It’s the war of Sex versus the Apocalypse.
Sex used to be on top, if you’ll pardon the indecency. But as my friend pointed out, erotica – once kept deep within the shadows of the Romance category, now brazenly leading the charge of the purple satin standards – is suffering casualties. The ranged forces of EL James, Sylvia Day et al are caught in a pincer movement, between doom on one side and dysfunction on the other.
It’s Dystopia, of course, that’s applying the squeeze. Formerly a little-visited corner in the wider realm of Science Fiction, it has grown to dominate the genre, the final destination of all manner of spec-fic fantasies.
Locally, this pits the likes of Human, Lauren Beukes, Sarah Lotz and Louis Greenberg – to name but a few of Dystopia’s denizens – against the likes of Helena S Paige and Jassy Mackenzie, those dungeon-masters of desire.
But what none of them seem to realise is that a new threat has hoved into view, which could see their – and indeed all other – genres of fiction shipped off to the equivalent of SA publishing’s salt mines, never to be heard from again. It’s thus imperative that they join arms and face the peril together.
This Hercules, come to clean up, takes the form of a mild-mannered scientist, previously best known for his thick tome on running. His name is Tim Noakes. He has published a diet book, called The Real Meal Revolution, that has those who take a teaspoon of sugar with their tea finding solidarity with another lot of outcasts, the smokers.
The Real Meal Revolution has burst with coruscating brilliance into South Africans’ consciousness. People are posting pictures of their newly punched belt holes as book reviews. It’s been top of our bestseller list for weeks, outselling other contenders the way KFC outsells the local deli. I daresay Noakes has recalibrated how local publishers view their jobs: to publish instruction manuals about what to eat, principally. Prepare, ye novelists, for the onslaught of the Diet genre.
Of course, diet books, with their dystopian inferences, are about the apocalypse that’s happening, now-now, in your kitchen – meaning there’s an angle for Human and his lot to latch on to. On the other hand, the links between sex and food go back go back as far as love itself, so there’s also hope for the Eros crowd. As the first step in the fightback to recapture fiction’s marketshare, then, the strategy is clear: novelists, start putting recipes in your books.
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